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Let me apologize
to you in advance

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for the presumption
of trying to take

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a large view because sometimes,
the small view is the right one.

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And it may be right
that just say,

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it's brutal assholes like
that are the problem.

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But let me try to struggle
to take a larger view.

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I assume that there are a lot
of people in the room who've

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been professional teachers.

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Professional teachers know that
the student who on the first day

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challenges you or makes fun
of you or by body language

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is ostentatiously resistant
is one of your allies,

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is somebody who is likely
is already engaged.

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You recognize in that person
somebody whose imagination

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is already in a
struggle with yours

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and is interested than that kid,
more than the kid who is going--

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not thinking about anything,
is actually a hope.

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And if this big guy is
interested in a shirt that

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has that offensive paradox
in it, something's cooking.

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That's in some way better
than if he just looks

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anonymous and doesn't
think about it at all,

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he's in the conversation.

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And thinking back to the
very gradual tipping point

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of the country in relation
to the Southeast Asia war,

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when I was in my 20s and early
30s, we go through these things.

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And we create stereotypes of one
another and then we over-- this

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is what I mean by
cultural issues.

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And in some
impossibly good world,

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you might have a
conversation with that guy.

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I might or you might.

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And you might try to say, "I'm
not going to be aggressive with

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you, but can we talk
about your shirt?"

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In some ideal way, there is
a terrible thing going on.

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And it's not only our children,
it's the people and the place.

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And it's not only that it's
bad policy but just about

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every measure that
I know of, it's

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also what's happening to the
people who actually are there.

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And this has happened before.

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There's a kind of
despair, I feel,

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having felt this once before.

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And what it would
be like to have

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your child or your
grandchild or somebody

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being one of the tokens, one
of the counters being pushed

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in there, it's unthinkable.

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It's really horrible that we
should try to think about it.

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But that guy coming out of
the men's room with bad body

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language, in a way
there's more hope in that.

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In the way-- and I'm
using the analogy

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from my own little province.

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I give myself away when
I use a teaching analogy.

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But even in family
life, if your kids

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are able to make
fun of your shirt

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or your kids are able to
say, Dad, you're a hypocrite.

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You say blah, blah, blah.

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There's a conversation going on.

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And that's better than a kind
of sullen ignoring one another,

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keeping out of
one another's way.

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So as I say, I apologize
for the long view,

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but he isn't necessarily
entirely the problem,

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maybe he is partly the solution.

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