WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.330 align:middle line:84% I'm gonna read a poem that's very new. 00:00:03.330 --> 00:00:06.780 align:middle line:90% I'll read three more poems. 00:00:06.780 --> 00:00:09.650 align:middle line:84% This is a poem I'm still working on. 00:00:09.650 --> 00:00:16.230 align:middle line:84% And again, in some ways, I owe this poem to-- 00:00:16.230 --> 00:00:19.200 align:middle line:84% I owe this poem to my friend Marie Howe, who-- 00:00:19.200 --> 00:00:22.950 align:middle line:84% we keep developing subject matter to write about. 00:00:22.950 --> 00:00:24.540 align:middle line:84% Now I've never written a poem about-- 00:00:24.540 --> 00:00:26.820 align:middle line:84% I've written a lot about men's experience, you know? 00:00:26.820 --> 00:00:30.150 align:middle line:84% But I haven't really written a poem about women's experience 00:00:30.150 --> 00:00:32.790 align:middle line:90% in the sense that-- 00:00:32.790 --> 00:00:36.570 align:middle line:84% women being-- now, unfortunately when you talk about this, 00:00:36.570 --> 00:00:42.180 align:middle line:84% you lapsed into PC dialect, but women as commodity and beauty 00:00:42.180 --> 00:00:46.410 align:middle line:84% as a product that has an expiration date on it 00:00:46.410 --> 00:00:51.150 align:middle line:90% and leaves us in the lurch. 00:00:51.150 --> 00:00:53.970 align:middle line:90% 00:00:53.970 --> 00:00:56.340 align:middle line:84% The poem is sort of about my sister, who 00:00:56.340 --> 00:01:01.320 align:middle line:84% was a beautiful, bouncy cheerleader and acquired 00:01:01.320 --> 00:01:05.580 align:middle line:84% all the skills of same and went on in life 00:01:05.580 --> 00:01:09.840 align:middle line:84% and majestically put it all behind her. 00:01:09.840 --> 00:01:11.760 align:middle line:90% [LAUGHTER] 00:01:11.760 --> 00:01:13.918 align:middle line:90% 00:01:13.918 --> 00:01:14.835 align:middle line:90% It's called, "Beauty." 00:01:14.835 --> 00:01:18.250 align:middle line:90% 00:01:18.250 --> 00:01:22.430 align:middle line:84% "When the tiny veins in her face broke one week 00:01:22.430 --> 00:01:26.140 align:middle line:84% and left a fine, barely noticeable purple patch 00:01:26.140 --> 00:01:30.680 align:middle line:84% on either cheek about the size of dimes, a side 00:01:30.680 --> 00:01:33.860 align:middle line:84% effect of some medication, my sister 00:01:33.860 --> 00:01:38.760 align:middle line:84% said she knew she would never be beautiful again. 00:01:38.760 --> 00:01:40.560 align:middle line:90% She should know better. 00:01:40.560 --> 00:01:44.460 align:middle line:84% But I guess once you've been thought of as beautiful, 00:01:44.460 --> 00:01:47.370 align:middle line:90% you never really get over it-- 00:01:47.370 --> 00:01:51.390 align:middle line:84% never quite adjust to just looking good enough 00:01:51.390 --> 00:01:54.750 align:middle line:90% or even unattractive. 00:01:54.750 --> 00:01:59.340 align:middle line:84% After all those years of holding her breath and waiting, 00:01:59.340 --> 00:02:03.450 align:middle line:84% she said it was a relief being done with beauty. 00:02:03.450 --> 00:02:06.660 align:middle line:84% But you could see her pause inside that moment, 00:02:06.660 --> 00:02:11.850 align:middle line:84% as the knowledge spread across her face with a fine distress, 00:02:11.850 --> 00:02:15.210 align:middle line:84% flattening her lips, making her cute nose 00:02:15.210 --> 00:02:20.710 align:middle line:84% seem, for the first time, a little knobby. 00:02:20.710 --> 00:02:24.070 align:middle line:84% I'm probably the only one in the whole world who actually 00:02:24.070 --> 00:02:26.140 align:middle line:84% remembers the year in high school 00:02:26.140 --> 00:02:31.390 align:middle line:84% she perfected the art of being a dumb blonde, spending recess 00:02:31.390 --> 00:02:35.290 align:middle line:84% on the breezeway by the physics lab, tossing her hair 00:02:35.290 --> 00:02:39.560 align:middle line:84% and laughing that canary trill that [AUDIO OUT] 00:02:39.560 --> 00:02:42.860 align:middle line:84% and how she spent most of the next 12 years 00:02:42.860 --> 00:02:45.440 align:middle line:84% looking for a man with the kind of attention span 00:02:45.440 --> 00:02:48.940 align:middle line:90% that she could count on. 00:02:48.940 --> 00:02:54.950 align:middle line:84% Then one day her time was over, done, finito. 00:02:54.950 --> 00:02:57.350 align:middle line:84% And all those other beautiful women just 00:02:57.350 --> 00:02:59.840 align:middle line:84% kept on being beautiful, everywhere 00:02:59.840 --> 00:03:04.580 align:middle line:84% you looked, walking in that kind of elegant trance 00:03:04.580 --> 00:03:08.090 align:middle line:84% in which you sense they always have one hand touching 00:03:08.090 --> 00:03:11.660 align:middle line:84% the secret place that keeps their beauty safe, 00:03:11.660 --> 00:03:16.810 align:middle line:84% inhaling and exhaling the perfume of it. 00:03:16.810 --> 00:03:19.270 align:middle line:84% I suppose we should have thrown a funeral 00:03:19.270 --> 00:03:23.530 align:middle line:84% to celebrate the passing of an era, the era of my sister's 00:03:23.530 --> 00:03:25.750 align:middle line:90% gorgeousness. 00:03:25.750 --> 00:03:27.850 align:middle line:84% But all the beautiful people were probably 00:03:27.850 --> 00:03:30.490 align:middle line:90% otherwise employed that night. 00:03:30.490 --> 00:03:34.660 align:middle line:84% And my sister just stood still for 30 seconds, 00:03:34.660 --> 00:03:39.070 align:middle line:84% then kicked some dirt over the memory of her former looks, 00:03:39.070 --> 00:03:42.940 align:middle line:84% like a cat using its hind leg to kick sand 00:03:42.940 --> 00:03:48.940 align:middle line:84% over its own past tense before it moves on in a new direction. 00:03:48.940 --> 00:03:51.130 align:middle line:90% Now that was beautiful. 00:03:51.130 --> 00:03:54.994 align:middle line:90% 00:03:54.994 --> 00:03:56.926 align:middle line:90% [APPLAUSE] 00:03:56.926 --> 00:03:58.380 align:middle line:90% 00:03:58.380 --> 00:04:00.500 align:middle line:90% Let's see. 00:04:00.500 --> 00:04:01.000 align:middle line:90%