"What I also mean to say is that I recognize the focus.
The impulse to know someone else before you reveal yourself.
The impulse to know someone else because you
have never been asked to reveal yourself.
The impulse to know someone else because otherwise you
do not know yourself.
The impulse to know someone else because you are self conscious
of your whole self, the one that fills up too many rooms, so
much space.
The impulse to hide how much space you need.
The impulse to hide what you need."