WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.595 align:middle line:90% 00:00:02.595 --> 00:00:03.095 align:middle line:90% "Failure" 00:00:03.095 --> 00:00:07.090 align:middle line:90% 00:00:07.090 --> 00:00:09.580 align:middle line:84% To pay for my father's funeral, I 00:00:09.580 --> 00:00:14.440 align:middle line:84% borrowed money from people he already owed money to. 00:00:14.440 --> 00:00:17.080 align:middle line:90% One called him a nobody. 00:00:17.080 --> 00:00:20.080 align:middle line:90% No, I said, he was a failure. 00:00:20.080 --> 00:00:22.750 align:middle line:84% You can't remember a nobody's name. 00:00:22.750 --> 00:00:25.510 align:middle line:84% That's why they're called nobodies. 00:00:25.510 --> 00:00:28.690 align:middle line:90% Failures are unforgettable. 00:00:28.690 --> 00:00:31.060 align:middle line:84% The rabbi who read a stock eulogy 00:00:31.060 --> 00:00:35.380 align:middle line:84% about a man who didn't belong to anything or believe in anything 00:00:35.380 --> 00:00:38.350 align:middle line:90% was both a failure and a nobody. 00:00:38.350 --> 00:00:42.010 align:middle line:84% He failed to imagine the son and wife of the dead man being 00:00:42.010 --> 00:00:44.200 align:middle line:90% shamed by each word. 00:00:44.200 --> 00:00:48.010 align:middle line:84% To understand that not believing in or belonging to anything 00:00:48.010 --> 00:00:51.670 align:middle line:84% demanded a kind of faith and buoyancy. 00:00:51.670 --> 00:00:56.170 align:middle line:84% An uncle counting on his fingers my father's business failures, 00:00:56.170 --> 00:01:00.160 align:middle line:84% a parking lot that raised geese, a motel 00:01:00.160 --> 00:01:04.000 align:middle line:84% that raffled honeymoons, a bowling alley with roving 00:01:04.000 --> 00:01:08.350 align:middle line:84% mariachis, failed to love and honor his brother, 00:01:08.350 --> 00:01:10.660 align:middle line:84% who showed him how to whistle undercover, 00:01:10.660 --> 00:01:13.720 align:middle line:84% steal apples with his right or left hand. 00:01:13.720 --> 00:01:17.650 align:middle line:90% Indeed, my father was comical. 00:01:17.650 --> 00:01:21.850 align:middle line:84% His watches pinched, he tripped on his pant cuffs, 00:01:21.850 --> 00:01:26.230 align:middle line:84% and snored loudly in movies, where his weariness overcame 00:01:26.230 --> 00:01:28.000 align:middle line:90% him finally. 00:01:28.000 --> 00:01:31.690 align:middle line:84% He didn't believe in savings, insurance, newspapers, 00:01:31.690 --> 00:01:36.760 align:middle line:84% vegetables, good or evil, human frailty, history, or God. 00:01:36.760 --> 00:01:40.330 align:middle line:84% Our family avoid us, fearing boils. 00:01:40.330 --> 00:01:44.370 align:middle line:84% I left town, but failed to get away. 00:01:44.370 --> 00:01:45.000 align:middle line:90%