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And then of course, there are
times when reason doesn't help

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and you have to-- this
is sort of about having

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to accept disagreement as
part of the relationship.

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It's called "Summer
At The Lake".

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"Let's not argue today about the
temperature of the wind that's

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blowing across the lake.

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Let's agree that
for me, it's warm

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given the genes I may have
inherited from forebearers who

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thrived in Lapland,
while for you, given

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what may have been your tropical
bloodlines, it's chilly.

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I'll be back in a minute
with your sweater.

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As for the man far
out in a rowboat,

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let's agree that
for me, he appears

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happy to be alone
with his thoughts,

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enjoying the kind of solitude
I longed for during my boyhood

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in a crowded tenement.

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While for you,
given your girlhood

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on a lonely farm in
Nebraska, he seems

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to be aching for a friend.

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Instead of lamenting
the distance between us,

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we ought to welcome it
as a spur to dialogue

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denied to couples
always in harmony.

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All we need to do is to
view our perspectives

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as two halves of the
globe or two pieces

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of a puzzle of many pieces.

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Or let's imagine that instead of
having two apples to cook with,

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we have the piquant
duo of apple and onion.

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If you don't like
my metaphors, you

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can offer your own while
we stroll this evening

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along the lake shore.

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I'd like to get your
response to my theory

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that the waves may be speaking
to us, repeating one word again

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and again.

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The word will be
able to translate

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as soon as we both succeed
in focusing our attention.

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Then you can share your
theory that the waves could

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speak to us far more
clearly if they wanted to,

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that they mutter and
mumble out of resentment.

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We haven't embraced
their view of life

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as an endless ebbing and
flowing, a breaking and falling

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back.

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By the time we get
back to the cabin,

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the first star
should be glimmering.

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Time for my nightly regret.

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They aren't closer.

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So any blessings
they shower on us

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would have a good chance
of falling on target.

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Time for your regret.

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They aren't more distant.

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So you could be more
confident their designs have

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to do with each other
only, not with us."

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